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Not all parents who abuse are the same or are mentally ill. But one thing that characterizes them: all in its infancy, abused children are not ones, have been criticized and exaggerated understatement permanent or have been improperly required by their own parents. In other words, they themselves were victims in their infancy, and consequently their ability to have a properly functioning as a parent was very severe deterioration.

These parents have learned to be abusive parent. He or models that had been so, and although rationally criticize what they did as children, when they live some situations the reaction they have is as violent as the father had been violent at the time.

On the other hand, have learned that the child is not a being to respect, protect and love. They have developed a very devalued concept of the child as a result of the rejection and humiliation they suffered when they were children. They learned that the relationship between a father and son is the relationship between an aggressor and his victim.

These abused children and teenagers grow up with great emotional deprivation. Once a child are sometimes intended to be this child who meets their emotional needs exaggerated. This expectation is always frustrated, because no child may be able to erase that past and ease the overwhelming emotional dissatisfaction of these parents. The frustration generated anger, pain of the past are revived and triggered the violent reaction to the child.

But all children abused as children become the parents abusers? Fortunately not. Some studies estimate that one third of all individuals who have been severely abused in their childhood, they will abuse their children. Although a considerable proportion, let us note that the remaining 2 / 3 fail to develop emotional resources that allows them to break with the “legacy of abuse.” There are vital facts that help a person to get rid of this sad past and its negative influence and can be free to be the kind of father you want to be. One factor is that when a boy and abused by their parents, was able to count on the support and protection and love from the other parent.

Another important factor to consider among those who influence the occurrence of abuse, is what society thinks and believes in relation to how children should be treated.

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